What do you do when your mind is suddenly flooded with old memories—conversations, hurts, or regrets—that seem to come out of nowhere? Last week, I had one of those moments while out on my walk here in Scotland. And it reminded me of an important truth about healing I want to share with you.
Last week, I woke up with gratitude on my mind—thankful for the opportunities I’ve had here in Scotland to share my healing messages and to connect with so many like-minded seekers on their own journeys to living their best lives.
But almost immediately, those thoughts were hijacked by old memories—flashbacks of trauma and ruminations about the parts of my marriage and divorce that were so unfair. I did what I usually do: reminded myself that I don’t need to focus on the past, and I went about getting ready for my day.
Yet later, on my morning walk, those memories came flooding back again—the countless lies, the conversations, the years of outside influence that weren’t supportive at all. I caught myself repeating, “It doesn’t matter.” But then I realized… maybe it does. Because if it keeps resurfacing, it’s asking for attention. As one therapist once explained to me, these are “involuntary flashbacks.”
That’s when I leaned into a practice I’ve started using recently. In my mind, I imagine a wide, sunlit meadow. In the center is a large family-style table where I invite my emotions to come and be heard. When I asked which emotion was present that day, the word rose up immediately: indignation. That sense of frustration, anger, and hurt when something feels profoundly unjust.
And here it was again—that recurring theme that often triggers me: unfairness.
But instead of shaming myself for “going back there,” I remembered a lesson that came to me many years ago through my connection to The Universe—what you may call God, Source, or your Higher Self.
That lesson is this:
When we revisit a theme in our lives, it doesn’t mean we failed to resolve it before. It means we are adding depth and dimension to our learning.
This is the heart of healing—it isn’t linear. It spirals. It deepens. Each return invites us to integrate another layer of wisdom across our entire being…the academic, emotional, physical, social, and spiritual aspects of our mortal existence.