{"id":379474,"date":"2014-05-05T01:46:00","date_gmt":"2014-05-05T01:46:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/2014\/05\/05\/dont-shoehorn-me-in\/"},"modified":"2014-05-05T01:46:00","modified_gmt":"2014-05-05T01:46:00","slug":"dont-shoehorn-me-in","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/2014\/05\/05\/dont-shoehorn-me-in\/","title":{"rendered":"Don’t Shoehorn Me In"},"content":{"rendered":"
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It happened at a friend\u2019s house.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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Thankfully\u2026<\/o:p><\/span><\/i><\/div>\n

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My host helped facilitate my Syracuse discussion, 5 Steps to Heal Grief<\/i>.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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As hard as I try to tell people that my focus is on healing, or healing grief, or, as I say \u201clearning to live our best lives, even in the face of adversity,\u201d people always say, \u201cShe\u2019s giving a workshop on grief.\u201d<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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Even my dearest friend, whom I haven\u2019t had a great deal of time to share my work and ideas and philosophy with as she leads a full life some two-plus hours from me.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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\u201cI like to say that my work picks up where grief leaves off, that The Five Facets Philosophy (T5FP) begins in the space where grief begins to soften,\u201d I said to her while we discussed the day\u2019s event.\u201d<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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\u201cPeople tend to shoehorn me into grief,\u201d I continued, gesturing to simulate stuffing something into a space, \u201cwhy, a few days ago I received an invitation to become a grief specialist\u2026\u201d<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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\u201cWait\u2026is that right? Shoehorn<\/i>?\u201d<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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\u201cIs that the right word?\u201d<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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\u201cI don\u2019t think that\u2019s the right euphemism\u2026\u201d I babbled on.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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A fine editor and word aficionado and an even greater friend (she didn\u2019t erupt into laughter), she knew exactly what I meant\u2026<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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\u201cI think it\u2019s pigeonhole<\/i>,\u201d she said\u2026<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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Shorehorns\u2026fences\u2026pigeonholes\u2026<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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There were many other Moments that made me smile or feel warm and fuzzy or just flat out appreciative of the people and places and promises that are all around me.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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But, since I\u2019m spending the weekend traveling and will return home just in time to watch Big Guy\u2019s team play their state cup game, I\u2019m going to let this Annah-Ism stand in\u2026<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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Laughter always fills that happy organ inside of us, doesn\u2019t it?<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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With love and a bit of laughter for you, my magical friends\u2026<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

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Soon\u2026<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It happened at a friend\u2019s house. Thankfully\u2026 My host helped facilitate my Syracuse discussion, 5 Steps to Heal Grief. As hard as I try to tell people that my focus is on healing, or healing grief, or, as I say \u201clearning to live our best lives, even in the face of adversity,\u201d people always say, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3522,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[316,1099,1191,1192,317,655,1193,320],"class_list":["post-379474","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-happyhappens","tag-annah-isms","tag-dont-fence-me-in","tag-dont-shoehorn-me-in","tag-finding-happiness-in-your-day","tag-humor","tag-pigeonhole","tag-random-happiness"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/05\/Don-t-Shoehorn-Me-In.jpg","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/379474","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=379474"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/379474\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3522"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=379474"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=379474"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=379474"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}