{"id":379603,"date":"2013-02-12T17:28:00","date_gmt":"2013-02-12T17:28:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/2013\/02\/12\/admitting-to-the-martyr-in-me\/"},"modified":"2013-02-12T17:28:00","modified_gmt":"2013-02-12T17:28:00","slug":"admitting-to-the-martyr-in-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/2013\/02\/12\/admitting-to-the-martyr-in-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Admitting to the Martyr in Me"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Warren and I will soon be traveling south to watch SS compete in a national event.<\/span><\/div>\n

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I can\u2019t wait to be in a little warmer climate after the harsh winter we\u2019re having in the northeast.<\/span><\/div>\n

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I\u2019m also looking forward to spending a couple of days with my family who live only about five hours from the venue.<\/span><\/div>\n

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As I was making plans, it dawned on me that we should<\/i> let Warren\u2019s parents know about the meet and ask them if they wanted to go.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Not want.<\/i><\/span><\/div>\n

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Not would like to.<\/i><\/span><\/div>\n

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Should<\/i> invite them.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Whereas the idea of including my family excited me, I felt a sense of obligation when it came to involving Warren\u2019s mother and father.<\/span><\/div>\n

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After all the years of\u2026well\u2026shit<\/i> they\u2019ve put me (and my marriage) through<\/span><\/a>, there are few (if any) who would begrudge me not feeling enthusiastic about spending several days with them while I was on a mini vacation…<\/span><\/div>\n

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Constantly looking over my shoulder and waiting for some bit of insanity to be tossed at me, my spouse, or my children isn’t exactly my idea of a retreat.<\/span><\/div>\n

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But, they are family, after all, and since the notion had popped into my head, I did what I usually do.<\/span><\/div>\n

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I mentioned to Warren that we should give them the information and ask if they wanted us (meaning me) to make hotel reservations for them, as well.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Honestly, I figured the invitation would be declined, what with the cold, snowy weather and their ongoing physical woes.<\/span><\/div>\n

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That same night, however, Warren came home from work and told me they\u2019d love to go. And, yes, could I please make reservations.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Folks, you won\u2019t believe what I did (or maybe some of you will.)<\/span><\/div>\n

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I was sitting at my computer, typing, as I am now.<\/span><\/div>\n

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When I heard those words, I dropped my head in dramatic fashion and let out an audible huff<\/i>, as if Hubby had jumped on my chest and forced the air from my body.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Right now, what comes to mind is that Shame Shame Shame<\/i> jingle that plays on Arnold Diaz\u2019s segment on the NYC Fox News station.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Fortunately the tune is also coming to me with a hint of a chuckle.<\/span><\/div>\n

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I’ve never thought of myself as a martyr, at least not in the negative sense, like this definition from my Encarta Dictionary: \u201ca frequent complainer who hopes to elicit sympathy from others.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n

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And I’ve never considered myself to be the type of person who \u201cbrings difficulties, suffering, or hardship on yourself for something.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n

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Alas, there I was, the leading lady in my own Martyrdom<\/i> production.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Hi. My name\u2019s Annah.<\/span><\/div>\n

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There\u2019s a martyr in me.<\/span><\/div>\n

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Here\u2019s hoping that, if I can kick a twenty-six-and-a-half-year smoking addiction<\/span><\/a> to the curb, I can whip this little compulsion into submission before it ever takes root.<\/span><\/div>\n

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What about you? Have you ever found yourself playing the part of the Martyr? What affect, if any, did it have on you?<\/o:p><\/span><\/i><\/div>\n

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Soon\u2026<\/span><\/a> <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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