{"id":379850,"date":"2016-01-27T11:11:06","date_gmt":"2016-01-27T11:11:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/2016\/01\/27\/the-grievers-game-my-loss-is-worse-than-your-loss-a-guest-post-by-mary-lee-robinson\/"},"modified":"2016-01-27T11:11:06","modified_gmt":"2016-01-27T11:11:06","slug":"the-grievers-game-my-loss-is-worse-than-your-loss-a-guest-post-by-mary-lee-robinson","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/staging.annahelizabeth.com\/index.php\/2016\/01\/27\/the-grievers-game-my-loss-is-worse-than-your-loss-a-guest-post-by-mary-lee-robinson\/","title":{"rendered":"The Griever’s Game: My Loss is Worse than Your Loss; a Guest Post by Mary Lee Robinson"},"content":{"rendered":"
Journeyer, do I have some exciting news for you! Today I’m participating in a blog swap! At the bottom of this post you’ll find the link to my piece “Why You Feel Alone,” but first I bring to you a wonderful woman I met at last year’s National Grief and Hope Convention.<\/i><\/div>\n
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For those of you who are familiar with my journey from loss, through grief, and into healing, you know that one of the first things I realized on my journey is how we compare ourselves to one another. We often tell ourselves that someone else can heal because they have better financial resources, doctors, friends, family, a better education… The Five Facets Philosophy on Healing evolved from one simple truth: Though our resources look differently on each of us and work differently within each of us, we are all born with the same universal resources<\/strong>, assets I call The Five Facets<\/strong>. We are each born with an ability to learn (Academic Facet), and ability to feel emotion (Emotional Facet), we are each born in a physical body and into a physical environment (Physical Facet), and we are each born with a spirit (Spiritual Facet.)<\/i><\/div>\n
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Today, Journeyer, I’m honored and excited to have Mary Lee Robinson from <\/i>The Widow or Widower Next Door here to share a few thoughts on the very subject of comparison. Mary Lee offers examples of some of the language we use to compare our losses and reminds us that, though each loss is different, in the end, there is no competition in loss…<\/i><\/i><\/i><\/div>\n
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The Griever’s Game: My Loss is Worse than Your Loss<\/div>\n
by Mary Lee Robinson<\/div>\n
I run a couple of groups for widows and widowers. In a couple of different venues I can often spot the \u201cnewbies\u201d by the statements they make like:
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